How I'm Teaching My 3-Year Old Thiel Not To Tell A Lie
Why do children or even adults tell lies? There could be a number of reasons, but one thing that I have observed, that is possibly the most common, would be fear. The fear of being reprimanded, the fear of getting blamed, the fear of being disliked if he tells an ugly truth.
I am teaching Thiel not to tell a lie by not getting angry at him when he tells me that he removed an important paper from its original place and put it somewhere else. Or that he hugged the cat or pulled its tail just after he washed his hands. Or that he was the one who turned off the fridge. Or that he pinched that younger girl and made her cry. And a lot more other mischiefs. Of course, he needs to know that what he did was not good and should not be tolerated. But I need to tell him in a very nice way, especially if he just told me the truth. I am very careful not to scare him off from telling what really happened.
This is what I always do:
I am far from being a perfect parent, but I believe teaching this value to Thiel as early as now, is something that he would greatly benefit from and would make him the good person that I pray him to be. Hence, I do my best to impress upon myself to consistently follow these guidelines.
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I am teaching Thiel not to tell a lie by not getting angry at him when he tells me that he removed an important paper from its original place and put it somewhere else. Or that he hugged the cat or pulled its tail just after he washed his hands. Or that he was the one who turned off the fridge. Or that he pinched that younger girl and made her cry. And a lot more other mischiefs. Of course, he needs to know that what he did was not good and should not be tolerated. But I need to tell him in a very nice way, especially if he just told me the truth. I am very careful not to scare him off from telling what really happened.
This is what I always do:
- Ask him gently and sweetly what he did or what happened.
- Listen to him and wait patiently for him to finish speaking.
- Hug and kiss him and thank him for telling the truth.
- (It's time to ...) Tell him that what he did wasn't right, again, in a very gentle and sweet manner, but not dwelling on it or making a long sermon.
- Remind him some other time not to do it again.
I am far from being a perfect parent, but I believe teaching this value to Thiel as early as now, is something that he would greatly benefit from and would make him the good person that I pray him to be. Hence, I do my best to impress upon myself to consistently follow these guidelines.
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posted by admin @ 1:21 AM
4 Comments:
nice post, give me another view for teaching my child
Very interesting method! I find that my son responds better when I'm calmer. I've also learned to try to listen to what he's saying when he's telling me something he's done, even when I can't understand him some of the time lol.
I also learned that getting on your knees and being eye-level with them when speaking also helps as well.
Hi Mathilda!
Thank you. I'm doing my best to put into words and writing everything that I'm able to impart to my son, hoping it would also benefit other moms :)
Hi Shannon! Thanks for your comment. Yes, that's true. The more we shout, the more they don't listen. So why waste our voices? hehe.
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